Drugs: Changing myself

"I'm doing this for me."
"Huh?"

It took a while for me to grasp the concept of Pansy joining a support group for herself and not for her addicted friend.

"You see, I'm not doing this to change my friend.  I can't change another person, but I can change myself."

She means changing how she reacts to things: to learn to stop worrying herself sick and to learn what it means to detach with love.
"It doesn't mean cutting myself off, thank goodness.  I was afraid that's what it means.  It means accepting that I can't make decisions for someone else."

Enlightened self-interest?  Who knows.  Who cares.
It works.